Say It.  Believe It.  Live it.

July 31, 2018

Think you’re tough?  Think you’re strong? Think you can handle whatever life throws at you?  Think you’ve got yourself figured out? Well, friends, sit back and relax because we’re all about to be schooled by a 9-year-old.  You might want to grab some tissues.

Read More

There’s an old saying that I love.  You’ve probably heard it before.

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.

Sound familiar?  I hope so. As I’ve traveled the country, it blows my mind how many students have NOT heard of that saying.  And I think I know why.

Read More

Sticks and Stones: The Cold, Hard Truth

July 19, 2018

Aubrey (name changed to protect identity) jumped off the bleachers during gym class and ran over to Haleigh (name changed).  Apparently Haleigh had been bullying Aubrey for quite some time and Aubrey was not going to take it anymore.  She grabbed Haleigh by the hair and began to punch her in the side of the head.  

Read More

Fight!  Fight!  Fight!

May 31, 2018

Wax On, Wax Off

May 15, 2018

To say I’m as giddy as a schoolgirl is an understatement.  Finally, a Karate Kid reunion has taken place! No...I’m not talking about the sorry excuse for a remake they did in 2010.  I’m talking about the classic 1984 version.

Daniel Larusso vs Johnny Lawrence.  Wax on, wax off. Paint the fence. Paint the house.  Mr. Miyagi. Cobra Kai. The crane kick. So many memories and lessons!

Spoiler alert!  Don’t say I didn’t warn you!

Read More

Almost every time I teach my daughter something, the first question out of her mouth is, “But, why?”  She’s curious. She wants to know. She realizes that there is the possibility for deeper knowledge. There’s a reason for each lesson.  And, while she’s at such a young age, the “why” is easy to explain. (Until it gets so deep to where a Ph.D. would have to step in.)

As I tour the country and talk with students, parents and teachers in all kinds of environments, I am met with the exact same question.  It’s obvious that the traditional strategies of dealing with bullying are not working. In fact, it looks like things are getting worse as time goes on.

But, why?  

Read More

But, Why?

May 1, 2018


Forgive me for getting sentimental here.  This week is my daughter’s 5th birthday.  The big 5.  One whole hand!  And I know it’s cliche, but it’s really hard to believe.  If anyone knows the story behind her birth, she truly is a miracle child.  

Lately, I’ve been remembering what a lot of people have told me over the last 5 years: “Treasure every moment because they grow so fast.”  

Read More


February 26, 2018

{Tap...tap...tap…}  Hello?!  Is this thing on?  Hello?!  Are we good?  {Tap...tap…}

Kids say the darndest things.  They are definitely good for a laugh every now and then.  I know my kids are hilarious!  But sometimes, kids, no matter what age, say some things that make you sit back and think, “Wow!  When did my kid get smarter than me?"

The other day I was able to sit down with a group of about 15 middle school students and just chat.  

Read More

Hello?!  Is This Thing On?

January 25, 2018

With all of the avenues being used to raise awareness about bullying lately, (TV commercials, articles, Pixar shorts, songs, celebrity endorsements, social media posts, etc.) why not a movie, right?  Wonder, the new movie about a boy with a genetic facial deformity, does just that.  Hollywood sure does a great job of instilling values in 90 minutes.  However, probably not in a way many of us are expecting.

Read More


December 21, 2017

Dear Keaton Jones (and everyone else in his shoes):

I’ve seen your video.  I’ve seen the media coverage.  I’ve seen the celeb support.  I’ve seen the attitudes of the public change from “Stand up for Keaton!” to “His mother is a racist, he deserves what he got, and more!”  

I understand, and know full well, what you’re going through.  I know what it’s like to get into the safe and secure sanctum of Mom’s car, feeling like the entire world is crashing down on me, and just let the tears flow.  Mom’s shoulder, Dad’s chest, my pillow and several stuffed animals have all acted as sponges over the years to soak up the tears of hurt caused by others.  

Read More

Dear Keaton Jones

December 15, 2017

Are We Insane?

November 20, 2017

Einstein said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.  So, I wonder…

Are we insane?

Throughout this school year, I have gotten emails upon emails from counselors and principals BEGGING for help in the realm of bullying.  “The guidance lessons we’ve been using aren’t doing anything.”  “The kids don’t take them seriously.”  “We’ve seen a spike in bullying and mean behavior."  

Read More